So I guess my encouragement for those couples out there that are struggling (and I know there are many couples in a lot worse position than we're in), the key is to struggle together. If you can make it through together, nothing will ever tear you apart.
Monday, February 1, 2010
Moving and Struggles
This past Friday, Daniel and I moved. It was a long and tiring day and I'm glad that it's over with and I'm definitely not looking forward to our second move. We moved into an apartment that looks almost exactly the same but it was a rather sad time. We've lived in that other apartment for the past 8 months, ever since we got married. It was sad to leave the place where we started out our married life. And even though we'll be moving back into that one in a couple months, it won't be the same. That apartment was where we spent long hours looking for jobs, as neither of us were employed when we got married. Many prayers went up through the roof of that building as Daniel would go to interviews and come home disappointed. And it wasn't just financial struggles that we had. The window above our bed would let in a cold breeze so we'd have to huddle together at night just to keep warm. The dishwasher in our apartment was a piece of crap so we had to wash all our dishes by hand... most nights after supper, you could find us side by side in the kitchen, washing dishes. The apartment was so drafty that Daniel would keep me wrapped up in a blanket just so I'd stay warm. A lot of people think the struggles that couples go through when they're first married are a bad thing, but I don't think they are. The struggles early on are what brings a couple close together. Our lives will be easier when we move back to our renovated apartment... during the last big snow storm (not the one a few days ago, but the big one before that), we had a small pile of snow inside the balcony door of our apartment. I think about what it would be like if we had all the money we wanted and never had to wonder how we were going to pay our bills. Life would be great, seemingly, but it's hard (almost impossible) to forge a deep and lasting love and commitment to another person if everything about life was easy.